Dear Dawdling DayDreamer

I stole the idea for this post from the always entertaining Shelley Sackier over at Peak Perspective.  If you could write a letter to your 14 year old self, what advice would you give her/him?  Here’s mine:

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Dream on Dawdler – never stop!

Dear Dawdling DayDreamer:

Learn to forgive yourself.  You are not the saint you think you are.  You are impatient and will make many mistakes.  But it’s okay because those mistakes will lead to experiences you may never have had, had you been more deliberate in your actions.  Thus, learn to forgive yourself.

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Maybe it’s not a good idea to give this guy a second chance. Remember, you are not a saint!

Always give someone a second chance.  You are not the best judge of character and, although you rarely judge someone by how they look or talk, often your first impression of a person will be wrong.  Of course, because you think you’re a saint, you will try to make the best of a bad decision when you should be running in the opposite direction but then again, forgive yourself. There are lessons to be learned in these experiences.

Never say “I would never…” because you will.   Accept that there

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You will do things you never thought you’d even try!

are no absolutes in life. When you find yourself in a situation you never imagined being in, remember to forgive yourself.  It happens to everyone.  Even saints.

Learn to listen.  You think you are a good listener but often you only hear what you want.  Let people finish their thoughts and carefully reflect.  Conversely, sometimes you hear things people haven’t said, thought or felt.  Remember, lack of confidence is a thief of time. You might feel like a compete mess but no one has x-ray vision.  

Your friends will be diverse.

Your friends will be diverse.

Friends are not perfect.   Some of your friends will be the type of people you never thought you’d enjoy hanging with.  So keep an open mind. Don’t make a list of what a friend should be.  There is no mold.  Just enjoy the ones who somehow get through your hard shell and remember, you are not a saint. 

In conclusion, you will be brave enough to take risks and fool-hearty enough to pursue your dreams. Your smile will always get you through so use it generously.

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Get used to balancing Dawdling Daydreamer! You’ll be doing it the rest of your life!

Sincerely,

Jan